MattR Dating app Founder Jamie Johnston, who suffers from ADHD, said: “I know how much pressure dating puts on someone’s mental health, especially the traditional setting of a dinner, movie or bar. They are sometimes over-stimulating at a time when someone is nervous anyway.”
1. If you have social anxiety: Consider a date at comedy show or a cookery class. Both of these activities provide anxious people with a task to occupy the brain and minimise the risk of overthinking.
2. If alcohol is a trigger for you: Go to a museum or zoo/ They are often sensory-rich environments that provide plenty of conversation starters, while also offering a load of distractions.
3. If you have food-related anxiety: A walk in the park is an ideal first date. It’s not too intense with eye contact, as you’re usually both facing forwards, you can easily leave if you need to or extend the date if it’s going well.
4. If you experience major highs when nervous: Consider doing something active - maybe a fitness class, dates or bowling. These activities offer a simple yet physical distraction for heightened nerves and also mean there’s less of a chance for any awkward silences.
5. If you’re prone to panicking: Make sure you do something that is totally within your control - maybe playing a board or video game virtually. It’s fun, stimulating and provides a topic of conversation if you panic when it comes to talking about yourself.
6. Remember: Keep activities relatively short and allow for breaks if needed to prevent overstimulation or restlessness. Communicate openly about your needs and preferences to ensure a comfortable and enjoyable date.